What Happened to PARKLYN?!? | Brooklyn Talks About Her Break Up

What Happened to PARKLYN?!? | Brooklyn Talks About Her Break Up


(upbeat music) – Hey guys! It’s Brooklyn and Bailey
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– We have some crazy stuff and you guys are totally gonna miss out if you haven’t bought tickets. So y’all need to click the link in the description below,
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your tour tickets now. We are going to 16 different cities. We’re gonna be performing
tonnes of crazy, fun stuff. – [Bailey] I, like literally
y’all, I’m so excited. – We’ve done rehearsals, I mean, It’s ready to go, we’re
ready to perform for y’all so definitely buy those tickets
and now, on to the video. – Um, I feel like in this video. So I know the intro
seems like, really happy and excited but, this video, I’m just gonna film by myself and it’s super casual, as you can see, I’m just sitting in bed
but, I’m just gonna kind of address this very serious topic that I know many of y’all probably already know what it is but there have been rumors and messages and you know, DMs and groups and Instagrams and tweets
and everything all over asking what happened to Parklyn because I did remove
Parker’s name from my bio. Parker and I are not together anymore and I just want to let y’all know that about a week ago, Parker dumped me and uh, it sucked. It still sucks. And um, God, I don’t wanna cry. You know, there are,
I’m sure to a lot of you our relationship came off as perfect. You know Instagram pictures
can only tell you so much and our relationship, we were happy and we were generally perfect
and we had our ups and downs and we had our issues, but we were happy and you know, the past month or so, we’ve been going through
some, some different issues with just communication and understanding what the other one wants. I thought that we were working through it. And I was super invested
in the relationship and, you know we sat down last Wednesday and we talked it out
and we felt really good and then at the end of the conversation, Parker just decided to dump me and it kind of blindsided me a little bit. It kind of came out of nowhere. I knew that we were having issues but they were issues a
lot of couples go through and issues that seemed very minor to me and something we could get through and Parker, I think had a
different mindset about it and he made a decision
that was right for him but wasn’t necessarily right for me and it sucked. And he decided, you know when he broke up with me I remember my heart just stopping. He’s been my best friend for four years and my boyfriend for two of those and this, I just am
literally in the moment I couldn’t even fathom
that it was happening I never thought it would happen to me. I never thought I’d
have to experience this. I never thought that I’d
have to not him there and my heart literally stopped and I just sobbed, like
I sobbed and that’s all I did was cry. And, you know and I got home and I thought I was gonna be okay and then I just cried some more and it was really, really hard and I had a really hard time with it. The first day after the break-up, I woke up to go to Bible study and I didn’t wanna get out of bed. And I didn’t want to brush my teeth and I didn’t want to look
at myself in the mirror and I didn’t wanna eat and I didn’t want to do anything because all I could think
about was how sad I was and what I lost and it was hard and I totally understand it if, you know total, it makes
sense that I was so sad and the only reason I
ended up doing anything was because Bailey forced me to get out of bed and Bailey forced me to brush my teeth and forced me to eat something and, you know, I went to Bible study and I sat there, and I
didn’t talk to anybody and I went to Majestics practice and I sat there and I
didn’t talk to anybody and I laid on the floor in
the locker room and I cried. And I cried and I cried
and I cried and I cried. And then Bailey got me
up and got me dressed and I went to school and then I came home and I cried and I cried and I cried and I didn’t even want to
be awake that first day because I, my mind was so focused on, you know, what I’d lost. And it got better, day by day and you know, filming this video now it’s been one week since I got dumped and I am still hurting a lot. A lot, a lot. And um, just so you know,
I’m looking at a paper here I wrote down some notes
cause, I’m so scatter-brained but, I just wanna let y’all know that Parker is a really good guy and he deserves happiness
in every way possible even if that’s not with me and I don’t regret our
relationship in any way, shape or form. I was so happy and I will
forever remember our relationship with a happy mindset and I just wanna let y’all know that he’s still a very very
very wonderful person and I don’t want y’all to think that he’s this big bad
guy because he dumped me and I don’t want y’all
to go and hate on him. I’m sure he’s had his own
struggles with this breakup and I, nobody needs to
make that worse for him. You know, he did breakup
with me and in the end that decision was probably
something he thought about for a while and you know,
he’d come to the conclusion that that was better for him and that doesn’t necessarily
mean that it was better for me. It was not mutual. I can tell you that. I, in no way shape or
form, wanted to break up and it still happened. There’s nothing I could’ve done about it There’s nothing I
could’ve done to stop it. There’s nothing I could’ve
done to changed or done better to make it not happen. It just, was supposed to happen and all I’m left with
is, you know the decision on whether or not I’m going to move on and be happy, or whether I’m
going to focus on that sadness. It took me about three days
before I finally realized that I had two choices, I could either wallow in my misery and be sad and focus on all of those
things I no longer had or I could try to change my mindset and think about all of the things that I was gaining and all of the things that I gained out of our relationship and the positives of what was happening and trying to let myself move on and not wallow in misery
because in my head it just made sense that
I tried to be happy instead of make myself sad because I’m not gonna get
anything out of sadness and I think it’s a
teenagers mindset to kind of like I know a lot of
people, including myself sometimes feel, like we just feel alone and that’s not true, it’s not. And those first three days I felt horribly, completely, utterly alone and abandoned and sad and
I didn’t wanna do anything and get up, eat, drink, nothing. I didn’t want that and, you know after the third day I think it kind of occurred to me that I wasn’t alone and
that was mostly due to I had huge, huge help from
my family and my friends and I, I can’t even begin
to tell you how grateful and wonderful these people are and I, you know I, that first
day that he broke up with me had probably 20 people bring me ice-cream bringing me gifts, facemask, bath bombs. Anything and everything
that possibly could, letters, notes, you know I
had over 60 people message me, DM me, send me a letter. Something telling me that
they were feeling for me, if I needed anything I could talk to them and I may have lost one person but in the end, I gained
all of these people and I recognized them as
my friends and my family and I see how much they’re supporting me I think a mistake I made and a mistake a lot of people make is in the relationship,
I focus all my energy and my attention and my love on one person and that was Parker and I never ventured outside
of that little bubble of Parker and I just assumed he
was always gonna be there and when he wasn’t, I
had no idea what to do. I didn’t, I hadn’t developed
relationships with, you know really close friends and I
hadn’t confided in anybody else and when he left, I felt so alone and I cannot be more
grateful for the friends that did step up and fill that role and are coming to my aid even though I didn’t spend time with them and didn’t invest myself in them in the relationship and I
think that’s something that you know, I would advise a
lot of people to make sure that you’re doing in a relationship is You’ll have that one person that you love with all your heart but always make sure that you’re giving a part of your time and attention to all the other people who love and care about you because you can never rely on one person to always be there. Things happen and life isn’t fair and sometimes those people leave and you have to rely on everybody else and having that relationship,
I think is super important. One of the things that I did as soon as Parker broke up with me was I gave him all of his stuff back and I replaced the things that I knew were going to make me sad like Parker bought me a necklace for one of our anniversaries that I wore since the day he got it for me and I took that off and
I put on another necklace This one and I’ve worn it since in replace because this one is a necklace
that has a positive memory that is attached to it and now
I can look at this necklace and reach up and feel this necklace like I used to Parker’s
and instead of being sad and thinking about Parker, instead I’m reminded of the happy memory that this necklace brings me or for example, Parker
gave me one of his jackets a long time ago and I took
that thing everywhere with me. I slept with it every night I dragged it through
school, class, travel, work anything and everything and you know, when he broke up with me that jacket just made
me want to be miserable and sad and reminded me all over again of what I lost and what
hurts and so, I gave it back and Bailey and Asa
immediately took me to Target and we went and got another jacket one that was my own. That nobody could take away from me and I could too attached
to as much as I wanted and it’s always going to be there and that helped me a lot because I had a replacement and I replace all of these
things that meant so much to me with other objects that
brought me happiness instead of a reminder of my sadness. If you truly do wanna move on and be happy, you can’t have those constant reminders of what you lost and you know, what you have. And, you know I still have
pictures of me and Parker. I downloaded them to my computer and they’re not on my phone but I know that when I’m older, I am going to want to look back and remember this part of my life and remember our relationship and you know, tell my
kids about what happened and I think it’s important
that I focus on the fact that he was a part of my life and that I can’t just throw it all away. I think it’s important that in the moment, we don’t make rash decisions. I remember I came home and I
just started crying to my mom and the first thing she
did was, she took my phone. She didn’t really tell me why
but I just let her have it because I didn’t want it and I was just gonna be sad and I think it was so so so smart and I’m so grateful that she did that because if I had my phone in all likelihood, I probably
would’ve texted Parker and I probably would’ve
called him and you know, all of these things all of these decisions
that I make in the moment, the rash decisions I make in the moment and I think that it’s important that we don’t do that. And it’s important that I didn’t do that in the moment because sometimes
you’ll do things you regret or you hurt them in a way you didn’t mean or you say things that you
truly don’t actually feel you’re just angry or upset or sad and I think it’s important that we we focus on not doing those things because making rash
decisions in the moment never end up good I think in the end I am a better person for what happened and there are lessons I learned and things that I now
that I didn’t know before and the thing that’s helped
me the most through this is the idea that you know, there’s this whole plan and my life is happening the way that it’s supposed to happen. I had a really good friend of mine give me a really great piece of advice and he said, “Every
relationship will end in hurt “except for the one that doesn’t.” And every relationship you go through is just one more stepping
stone towards the person that’s going to be the one
that does make you happy for the rest of your life and isn’t going to leave you. And, I think that one piece of advice has really helped me keep
a positive outlook on this. In the end, I did learn
a lot of good lessons. I learned a lot of communication a lot of how to, you know, be with someone how to, just a lot of great lessons that are key and the
next time I meet a guy, I have all of these things that I now know from Parker and I’m grateful that I was able to experience these things and you know, be able to
understand them and learn them and be in the moment and,
even through the breakup, I’ve learned things about
myself and about other people and about life that I would’ve never known if I hadn’t had this experience. There are a lot of people who
go through stuff like this and there are a lot of girls like you who are gonna go through stuff like this and if you haven’t already, you will and if you have, it’s possible
that it will happen again and it doesn’t make it any easier and I just wanna let everyone know that I understand and my life isn’t perfect and I make mistakes and
stuff like this happens to me and happens to you and
I wanna let y’all know that I understand and I sympathize and you know, life isn’t
perfect and life isn’t fair and you can do everything right and sometimes it just doesn’t work out and it doesn’t work out
the way you want it to and the only thing we can do is make it the best of
the situation we have and we can’t focus on the things we lost or the things we don’t have or we’re just gonna
make ourselves miserable and nobody wants to be miserable. I think that you just have
to keep this mindset of what is there coming
up for me that’s better and what can I do and how can I make myself happy so that until that moment, I’m not miserable and you know, that kind of mindset. This was my first heartbreak
and it’s really hard and it’s been really hard and I’ve had a lot of people tell me that I’m handling this breakup really well but that doesn’t necessarily mean that it doesn’t still hurt. It still hurts and I still
had all of these things happen and I still had those
emotions in the beginning and I still have those emotions. I’ve just taken on a
mindset that I am going to take this experience and
learn and grow from it and become a better person from it instead of wallowing in my misery and being sad and hurting other people and all of these other
things that I could do and I just think that
there are a lot of y’all that are probably in the same boat and will experience the same thing and if anything, you can
listen to this rant of mine and learn something or you know, empathize and try to take that mindset too. But yeah, I just think that in the end, I’m so grateful for all the
people who were there for me and I’m grateful for the
experiences and lessons and learning and growing that
I have done because of this and I’m excited for what’s
to come in the future and I think Parker is a wonderful person and I think that there
will always be a part of me that loves him and even when I’m married, I’m gonna think back to, you know, my first love, which is Parker and, you know I’ll think of it in a fond memory but I’ll also still have
a little bit of hurt and I think that that’s
normal and you know, it’s just something that we have to learn and get through and I hope that this video helps someone out there who’s experiencing something similar and that y’all can decide to learn and grow from
your experiences as well. But moving on from all
of that sadness y’all, we are going on tour so soon! And, you guys are going to
miss out if you’re not there I am going to be talking a little bit more about my break-up on tour and just relating to all of you and there’s gonna be
tonnes of other fun stuff. We are performing two brand new covers and we’re performing our
three original songs, going to 16 different cities so y’all definitely get tickets in the link in the description box below. If you aren’t coming, you guys
are totally gonna miss out. Now if you wanna watch more of our videos, you can click the boxes right over here and if you wanna subscribe to our channel, click the box right down here, right here. We love you guys and I love you. You can get through anything. (upbeat music)

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