How does one break free of habits? | J. Krishnamurti

How does one break free of habits? | J. Krishnamurti


Can I ask a question? How does one
break free of habits? Once one has intellectually reached
an understanding from such… …as one has just discussed, how
does one break free of habit then? When one understands something
verbally, so-called intellectually… …how does one break that habit? That is the question
the gentleman asked. What is habit? It is a repetition, isn’t it? Cleaning one’s teeth every day
– it becomes a routine… …you don’t pay attention, you
just do it very quickly and get off. So the brain establishes a pattern,
drinking, sex, whatever it is… …it establishes a pattern, then repeats
it, then it becomes mechanical. Right? Are you following all this? So the brain through constant
habits has become what it is now… …not active, alive. So the gentleman asks: how do you
break a habit, whatever the habit? A habit to search for god,
to go to some exotic guru… …who promises you everything
and lets you do what you like… …you know all the crazy things
that are going on in the world. Now how do you break a habit? Without conflict
– right? You understand? Let’s say I have a habit, of what
– give me a habit, would you please. Smoking. Smoking is such an easy affair,
that is an easy affair to stop. Always giving the same answer. I hope I am not
giving the same answer. It doesn’t matter. I have a habit, smoking, scratching
my head, keeping my mouth open… …habit of thinking the same thing
over and over and over again… …or the habit of chattering. Let’s take chattering. I am not only
chattering with myself… …but I am always endlessly
talking with others. Right? The other day somebody came
to see me, it was an interview. I don’t give interviews anymore
but she insisted, she came. The moment she entered – please, it is
none of you here – she began to talk… …talk, talk, and when she left,
‘I am glad to have met you.’ We all chatter endlessly; …not only some go back and forth,
but also chatter inwardly. That has become an extraordinary
habit for most people… …they can never be quiet,
never be silent. Silence in the sense the
brain completely still… …but that is a different matter,
we can go into it later. So this habit of chattering. How do I stop it? First of all, who is to stop it? Another chatterer who says,
‘I must stop this chattering… …but I will have my own chattering’
– you understand? So who is to stop chattering? Fear? Seeing that it is a wastage of
energy, chattering, chattering… …then will you stop that? So we have to ask a question
which is more serious: …is there an entity outside
of you, or inside of you… …that will act as a
brake upon chattering… …that will say,
‘No I will not chatter’? Is it – please listen carefully – is
it will, the decision not to chatter? And if it is will, what is will? The quintessence of desire
– right? Right?
Are you all tired? No. All right. How quickly you answered. So, how do you stop
a habit of chattering? First of all, if you stop it
through will, through desire… …that creates another conflict,
doesn’t it? And to stop chattering without conflict
– you understand my question? …is that possible? I chatter. First of all I am not
aware I am chattering. You point it out to me and say, ‘Old
chap do stop chattering so much.’ And I get rather hurt by it but
if I go beyond that and I say… …’Now, in what
manner am I to stop it?’ Then I have got the orthodox
means of will, or taking a drug… …that will quieten me down,
and having been quietened… …I take another drug to keep me awake
– and I keep on that routine. So I want to find out how to
stop a habit, like chattering… …keeping your mouth open,
scratching yourself… …all kinds of things,
without any kind of effort. You understand my question? This is an important question. To do something without effort. Does it amuse you, it’s fun. Will you do this? Find out your particular habit,
aware of it, and say, now… …can it be ended without any action
of will, decision, compulsion… …reward – you understand
– reward and punishment… …they are the two
elements we live on. So can I break that habit
without any side effects. Right? Can we go into this?
I will go into it. First of all am I
aware of my habit… …not that you point it out
to me and then I realise it… …but am I aware of my habits without
somebody telling me of my habits. You understand? See the difference. If you tell me my habit then I either
resist it, or say, yes, I must stop it. But if I see it for myself I am
a step ahead, if I can so put it. Right? Now are we aware of our particular
habit, chattering, we took that? Now what does that
awareness mean? Awareness means to look at something
without any reaction, without any choice. I am aware that I am
chattering, that is first. Then to be aware, to watch
it without any condemnation… …justification or explanation,
just to watch it. Will you do that? So that the old reactions don’t come
in, the old tradition doesn’t come in… …and say, ‘I must stop it’,
I must do this, I must do that. So to watch the
chattering very carefully. To watch it means without
any reaction of past memories. This becomes very difficult. You understand? If I watch that tree in movement in
the wind, it is a beautiful thing… …and I don’t like wind
therefore I won’t watch it. Similarly in a certain way,
I can watch my chattering. The watcher is not
different from chattering. So the watcher is not the structure of
words, memories, he is just watching. You understand that? Please this is rather complex and
requires a great deal of enquiry. We watch things with our
prejudices, with our opinions… …with our memories,
the whole structure of words. Right? We watch everything that way. Now can you watch without
all that memory, structure? That is where the art comes
in, the art of watching. Now I watch – there is a
watching of my chattering. I am aware and in
that awareness… …I am not seeking any reward
or punishment, I am just watching. Which means what? I am giving complete
attention at that moment. Right? At that second all my energy, all
my capacity and attention is there. Which means when there is
complete attention, complete… …not attention brought about
through any form of desire… …through any form of
reward or punishment… …just complete attention,
then that habit has no place. You understand?
Do it please, try it once. Now, you will say, yes, for
the moment it is possible… …I can see that can end, if I give
complete attention to something… …there is an ending to it,
but it comes back. Right?
Are you following? It comes back,
the chattering comes back. Then what is your reaction? I did it once, gave complete attention,
and it seems to subside for a second… …now if I give the same
attention it will subside again. So you have become mechanical. I wonder if you see this? Do you understand this? I gave attention, complete
attention, to my chattering. That flame of attention wiped
away for a few minutes chattering. I have seen the thing works. Then the next moment, or next
hour, whatever period of time… …you begin to chatter and
suddenly catch yourself and say… …’I must pay attention.’ So again you repeat,
again it disappears. So gradually what you are
learning is paying attention… …which means you
are not attending. Have you understood
what I am saying? If you are constantly reminding
yourself to attend, it is not attention. But attention has no time
– oh, I won’t go into all this. If you give your
complete attention… …which means there is no wastage
of energy, then the thing goes away. So your concern is not attention
but wasting energy – you follow? We waste energy in a 1,000 ways,
chattering is one of the ways. So, all right, I don’t pay attention
any more about chattering… …but I am going to see how I
waste my energy – right? I am going to pursue that. I am going to watch, learn,
see where I am wasting energy. Oh, there are so many ways.
Right? So my mind is now not
becoming mechanical… …by the repetition that I
must attend but it is moving. Right? All the time picking
up new things. I wonder if you see all this? So that the brain becomes
extraordinarily alert… …and when it is so
alert habits have no place. Is that enough for today? What time is it? Five after one. Oh! Sorry, I must stop.

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100 thoughts on “How does one break free of habits? | J. Krishnamurti”

  • I like the sound of his voice. No matter what happens he is at peace with it being what it is, and I like that too. After all things usually works out, what a saving of energy to drop worry over what "should be". Such trust in life's most basic movement and intelligence. I don't share his path due to there being none, yet also due to there being so many processes and poetics to life. But we meet, I enjoy his company.

  • Notice the lack of Obese people in this audience. I would say is the difference between an Oprah Winfrey audience and this audience. Just my observation. Nothing more, nothing less. I find such an interesting fact.

  • A very good deconstruction of one of the key elements of Vipassana practice from Theravada tradition of Buddhism. Meditators try to put in into practice via Anapanasati aka breath meditation and meditation of body sensations among others so as to be mindful of the present moment, nonjudgmentally.

  • Rashi Bhagtani says:

    क्या कृष्ण मूर्ति जी की कोई किताब हिन्दी में उपलब्ध है क्या?

  • Obaku Huang Po says:

    Cultivating the Watcher – none other than Holy Spirit, The Great Spirit and many other names. The Witness of Spiritual Interior. Exposing the mechanics of ignorance by distinguishing the watcher from the wanter. Complete attention… hearing but not yielding to the wanter, not by force of denial but by true discipline, meaning recognition of what is unalterable and seeing clearly the inherent conflicts with the wanter who fails and prefers not to see eternal limits.

  • Hoshiyar Gurung says:

    when there is complete attention, then that habit has no place. what a simple insight.thank you K.

  • praveen vaggannavar says:

    Yes this was the idea " to stop a habit without conflict "I was looking for from many great people from many days I was also thinking about this . Finally got the answer .This has to be thought to each and every student of the class of nature

  • LOL 3:00 she said "the habit of always giving the same answer" lmao savage
    Good that JK caught onto the snarky joke once he was able to hear it

  • There are good habits as well as bad habits. Why would one want to break a good habit? As for bad habits, surely the only thing one can do is replace them with good habits. Good habits are life-supportive. Bad habits are destructive.

  • Isn’t it amazing how one can go from a state of let’s say, major depression to a state of peace in a split second without any form of therapy or ‘becoming better’ just by paying full attention to the symptoms or experience that one experiences.

  • Boanerges Bezerra says:

    Smoking it is easy to quit?!??. Krishnamurti not very practical but he is very profound. Maybe it was a different World then, today there is an epidemic of legal and illegal drugs and addiction and words alone can't fix it.

  • 3:00 "Habit of always giving the same answer." He has a habit of giving same answer because people have a habit of asking same questions.

  • This is it. Every real truth seeker says that. The Buddha, it’s followers, eckhart tolle, some celebs with spiritual growth. Because If you can’t understand the cause and effect, the habit will always dominate your life. No matter how hard you repress it. The desire will always rise again because we never bothered to understand that desire.

  • Fernando Sanchez says:

    giving complete attention at that moment. when there is complete attention then the habit has no place to exist.

  • People still don't realize the importance of this man. Compared with him, we are all children. His visit is a blessing for this planet.

  • I can see how people, including myself, can not have the patience for this type of thing. And I can see also how here it can be hard to even on this one, it can be seem too esotetic. But for me this one is very practical and also in line with CBT principles, classical conditioning principles, and operant conditioning too. He references it, basically. What I saw in it, for a use, was for addiction. I have been wondering and asking and trying to notice the habit of the addiction…its will, if you like. A craving seems to, for some, be physical then become quickly an idea, plan, and a ruse, rationalization, lift of mood before the drug or drink, in pre-plan, but resolved to do it anticipation. Things leave the mind. Noticing that, for the addict to try to watch it, can maybe be powerful to break the chain from strong impulse and desire, right after the body crave. Not to try and stop it, but to meet sort of desire with adesire, zilch, nothing but the watching.

  • MarSar Fishin' says:

    Clearly Krishnamurti isn't JUST talking about "chatter" here, all bad habits are fueled by mental movements and self-talk that drives us to the action. Watch your mind next time some habit energy starts moving, and you will see how sneaky and tricky that lil son of a biscuit can get.

  • If one listens to this guy without the interest of gaining something out of it, you just simply understand what he is saying. But the desire for reward and the fight between the good YOU against the BAD you won’t let you understand a thing, and yet who is aware of all this? He he.

  • Everything has been figured out except how to live, get rid of this habit there comes another one, life has no purpose

  • This is not vipassana in any one dimensions… You have no idea how jk was made. This fellow was imbibed with all the tantric knowledge of that time which was available in theory… 3 people responsible for this said " 'the' perfect being has come" and they arranged a mass opening for this… 1st line is said was "I am not what they are saying".

  • my disorder is back brain experience severe muscle cramp due to huge emotion pressure in short period by terrify shouting when i was kid but I didnt realize it was cramped n troubling process emotion n thinking ability or u call ''ego''? until I begin loosen it decade later, u call 'Enlightened'? which i don't need if no brain cramped happen.

  • Fortunately there is a sweet death, witch solves all the problems for us. But it would be nice, to die before death, so you can feel how to be alive.

  • Why would you want to be 'aware' when doing routine actions? Just do them mechanically and maybe sing a song or think about something interesting , like why birds can fly or why the moon covers the sun exactly at an eclipse..

  • I always thinks that this enlightened person was nothing but gautam buddha's disciple in his past life …As he explained everything logically and scientifically.

  • I never really press like or dislike on any youtube videos, However, if it was possible, I would press the like button on this video infinite times.

  • The Wonderful World of spirituality. Discipline, money (yes) and sometimes you might just be lucky Life is kind to you. More or less we are all victims to the system which is imposed on us. Life can be boring. So what? Have some courage at times and face the consequences? If we cannot stay out of the kitchen. Can you see that sirs…..? The repetition of the question mark

  • Wow reminds me of a time when the lights would go out because of a rain storm and Grandpa would sit in his rocking chair light a candle and tell his grandkids a story 😥 the good old days!!!

  • He had a habit teaching for how long? 60 years? Lol. His "fault" was that he always spoke about negative aspects of life. Spiritual generalizations and distinguishing good from bad it's not enough.

  • All that krishnamurti is always talking about is something you can't describe or understand trough words. But it's our only way of communication, so you try to understand it by the words, then you find yourself at the same place than before starting watching this. There a way out tho 🙂 which is not a way by the way 😉

  • You have to listen very, very close to this man, or else you will not understand a thing of what he is saying (-; H3e likes to challenge you, and is a bit weird ofcourse. I love him for telling the truth about the state of unconsciousness of our species. And this while we have so great thinking power, used all for wrong purposes..

  • At first person tries to recall his inner world and trying different types of practices and doings , but he easily forgets inner world when busy in world affairs. Then there comes a time when he will become tired of every practices and doings, .. and his sensitivity start to increase. Then there comes a time when his sensitivity becomes so deep that he does not need to remember his inner world but he will get reminder and messages from everything around him and whatever happening inside of it. Everything drags him inside, and he becomes so deep that he starts to understand the inner language which is soundless and formless . Then there comes a time when he will become stunned, surprised by vast beauty , by unlimited joy vaster than any ocean , stillness deeper than any valley. Then he will see his face in the mirror and will be surprised that he never saw this person before and everything looks utterly new.

  • Krzysztof Kochanowski says:

    omg, people follow such idols, this guy confirmed that all this "wisdom" is from being (who he let in) who ruined his health (died on cancer) in christianity we called it satanic possesion if u belive this stuff. This guy was occultist like all buddi/hindu meditation guys. I dont get what is so good in this ideology? You open for some "energies" which u cant control, u turn off ur mind, and nirvana… No love just pseudo wisdom. And 99% are just fame atention guys, who some poor people follow. One example young budda, who no eat no sleep and 24h meditating uder tree plzzzz (but access to his was denied during night). Making fools of poor belivers.

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