Gary Vaynerchuk on Why Perspective Will Make or Break You | Impact Theory

Gary Vaynerchuk on Why Perspective Will Make or Break You | Impact Theory

Tom: Hey, everybody. Welcome to Impact Theory. You are here, my friends, because you believe
that human potential is nearly limitless, but you know that having potential is not
the same as actually doing something with it. So our goal, with this show and company, is
to introduce you to the people and ideas that are going to help you actually execute on
your dreams. All right. Today’s guest is one of the world’s leading
marketing experts and living proof that the American Dream is alive and well, if you’re
willing to work your face off. He was born in Belarus in the former Soviet
Union, didn’t speak a word of English when he arrived. His entire extended family lived together
in a tiny-ass apartment in Queens, and as the foreign kid, he was once bullied into
drinking urine from a soda can. He was a D and F student, and pretty much
everyone thought he would fail in life. Despite all of that, though, this guy not
only refuses to complain about anything ever, he is wildly optimistic, upbeat, and freakishly
driven. A born entrepreneur, he began by ripping flowers
out of people’s yards and selling them back to them. He had an entire lemonade franchise system
while he was still riding a big wheel, and in his teens, he was routinely making thousands
of dollars a weekend selling baseball cards, until his father forced him to go to work
in the family business for $2 an hour. But he didn’t waste time whining about it. He just got to work, and just out of college,
by being an early adopter of the internet. He took his father’s discount liquor store
from being a local store doing $4 million a year in revenue to an internet phenomenon
doing $45 million in revenue in just five years. Now, leveraging his unique ability to identify
where consumer attention is going next, he founded the pioneering digital agency VaynerMedia,
which serves some of the largest companies on the planet, and along the way, he’s also
built a massive social following of his own that rings in at around 3.5 million devoted
followers. He is a people first kind of guy, and you
can see it in everything that he does, from his employees to his fans and partnerships. As such, he’s greeted like a rock star. His business is growing crazy fast, and it’ll
soon be starring in Apple’s original series Planet of the Apps with Gwyneth Paltrow, Jessica
Alba, and On top of all that, he’s also a prolific angel
investor and venture capitalist who was an early investor in such juggernauts as Snapchat,
Facebook, Twitter, and Uber, so please, dearest of friends, help me in welcoming the four-time
New York Times best-selling author and future owner of the New York Jets, Gary Vaynerchuk. Gary: Thank you, bro. Tom: Welcome to the show. Gary: Dude, that was super impressive. Tom: Thank you, sir. You [crosstalk 00:02:52]
Gary: There’s no shot I could have pulled that off, and also, after listening to all
that, I’m really glad my mom sent you the memo. Tom: Right? Gary: That was very nice. Tom: I got it all from her, just yeah, straight
out. Gary: It’s good to be here. Thanks. Tom: Yeah, it’s good to have you, man. Gary: Nice to have some peeps in the audience. I always like that a little bit better, so
… Tom: You and me both, yeah. Gary: Yeah. Tom: So play right to them. I mean, in many ways, this is for them. This all started originally back with Inside
Quest. It was all about doing something for the employees. Gary: Yep. Tom: And I had this unending terror, because
I have these 25 bullet points that I think anybody should be living by, and I was terrified
people would memorize them but not actually live by them. Gary: Sure. Tom: Which is like the death sentence, because
you think you’re doing something right. You pacify yourself by memorizing it. So yeah, I love having people here and getting
feedback. Gary: It’s funny you just said that. I think so many people are keyboard activists,
right? Everybody’s good at sending a tweet about
how the world should be, and nobody’s doing anything about it, and that is just very much
human nature. Tom: I was just going to ask if you think
that’s human nature, or if you think that we’ve gotten soft as a culture? Gary: Yes. I mean, of course we’ve gotten soft as a culture
in the U.S., because the U.S. has had an incredible 200-year run. Right? This is just what happens, so as a culture,
I can’t speak for people that live in the Amazon River, and I can’t speak for people
that still live in Belarus, but the American culture is soft, and that’s a great thing. That means there’s been enormous amounts of
prosperity, but let’s not be naïve. I mean, people literally complain when somebody
gives them the wrong amount of extra cream in a Starbucks $6 coffee. We’ve gotten to a place where we complain
… Out of all those lovely things you said, as I stood there getting ready to come, the
part that, and I’m glad you pick up on this and not a lot of people have said it before,
so thank you, my lack of interest in complaining is so high. And when I watch what people complain about,
it breaks my heart, because they completely lack perspective, and I genuinely believe
my happiness and optimism comes from my perspective. Even in political unrest times like right
now, a lot of people very bent out of shape, but the reality is, is that it’s just never
been better to be a human being. That’s just the truth. That’s just data. That’s reality, and yeah, I mean, it’s just
a very fun time to be alive. So much going on. The internet is starting to hit maturity. Look at what we’re doing right now. Tom: It’s crazy. Gary: This way now, right? Would have cost millions of dollars in production
and distribution to have the amount of people who watch this just 15 years ago. I just think it’s very interesting times,
and I was saying something to a friend the other day. I was like, “Could you imagine if you told
a parent 15 years ago, ‘Hey, parent. What you’re going to want to do in 15 years,
instead of buying a kid, your 16-year-old, a car, you’re going to convince your 16-year-old
daughter to go into a stranger’s car every single day. You’re going to pay for your 16-year-old daughter
to go into a stranger’s car every single day, and you will think that’s normal and actually
safer than buying that kid a car’?” That’s literally what we’re living in now. High-net-worth individuals in America are
preferring to give their kids unlimited Uber to buying a car, because they don’t want them
drinking and driving. They don’t trust their driving, and literally,
they think it’s safer for their 16, 17-year-old to go into a stranger’s car than to drive
themselves. That’s sacrilege 15 years ago. Online dating 20 years ago, the weirdest,
nerdiest. You’re thinking 300-pound white dude in the
basement of a kid’s car. Now it’s just completely standard. I mean, if you add in sliding into people’s
DM on Instagram, it’s like 89% of relationships, right? So I think we’re going through a huge transition,
because all of us, even thought leaders, are grossly underestimating the internet itself,
and we’re hitting scale. Right? We now all are on at all times, and this is
now the beginning … I was joking while I was working out this morning, the DRock, I’m
like, “DRock, you’re going to get replaced by like a Pokemon ball. I’m going to throw it up … People in 20
years are literally going to throw something up. It’s just going to hover 360 and film everything
they’re doing.” I mean, it’s just an incredible time, and
I think the way people look at the world right now, because it’s such an incredible time,
is actually the quickest tell to who they are. If you think it sucks, and it’s bad, you have
losing pessimistic DNA, and if you think it’s awesome and phenomenal, you have optimistic
winning DNA, and I believe that to be true, and so that’s where we’re at. Tom: No, man, I’m with you on that. So I’ve been involved in the XPRIZE now for
a while. Reason I got involved with the XPRIZE is largely
for that reason. I look at the future, it’s so fucking exciting. What’s going on is crazy, and if you’re the
one that can see where the trends are going, and you can ride those trends, be the early
adopter, get into it before anybody else, and there’s obviously chances for huge wins
there. Gary: While you’re practical. Tom: Right. Gary: Right? Because I think a lot of my … So I’ve had
that career, but a lot of the reason is, I’m not guessing or getting in too early. Right? It’s like real estate. There’s a big difference between the people
that bought beachfront property in Malibu than people that are buying beachfront property
in off-region, no infrastructure … Tom: Right. Gary: … islands in the Caribbean, which
is right, in theory, but it could be an 80-year theory, right? And so it’s about timing. Like VR’s coming, but consumer VR is very
far away. All my friends are spending millions of dollars,
tens of millions of dollars, in consumer virtual reality, VR, yet there’s nobody here, nobody
watching this, that knows a single person that spends three hours a day on VR. Tom: Right. Gary: Right? Like it’s just, it’s way far away. I’m not sure there’s people that know people
that have spent three hours in their life yet in VR, right? And definitely not 10 people, outside of people
in the business testing stuff, so I think timing really matters on that, because I get
worried that people jump way too far ahead, and the reality is, the market’s not there
yet. Tom: And what are the things that you look
for in that? I heard you tell a story in one of the interviews
that you did, I thought, the follow-up question there, which wasn’t asked, you said, “I was
talking to this woman. She said she doesn’t do Snapchat.” I think it was a woman cutting your hair. Gary: Yes. Tom: She doesn’t do Snapchat, no social, and
you said, “Tell me more, just in case this is a trend that I need to be aware of.” How do you identify those trends? Is it stuff like looking at what app is …
Gary: Yes. Tom: … on the front page of Apple …
Gary: I always do that. Tom: … and talking to the person cutting
your hair, is it really sort of that … Gary: It’s very …
Tom: … brick and mortar? Gary: … very non-scalable. Tom: Right. Gary: But that’s my talent, right? Like I think Clive Davis, how does he do it? I don’t know. He just sat there and heard people sing, and
he’s like, “You.” I’m careful to not give advice that I know
is uniquely something that I was gifted with, like how do I tell you that, “Oh, here’s how
it actually works, and it almost started happening. It didn’t happen”? I actually get goosebumps, like actually,
like real, heavy goosebumps when I hear something that I know feels right. What’s the advice there? “Hey, Johnny. Start getting goosebumps.” There are certain things that I can’t talk
about, because I know they’re not practical. They’re intuitive to me, right? And so yes, for me, it’s the balance of, I
feel like something’s happening, but it always comes from seeing stuff, like it’s going to
the candy store with my little guy and hearing four eight-year-old girls talk about slime,
and then later go to Shake Shack and hear another two eight-year-old boys talk about
slime, and I’m like, “Slime?” And then I search it, and this is a year ago,
and I search it … Maybe, actually, it’s 18 months ago, and I search it on Instagram
to see hashtags. I search it on YouTube. I search Google. I’m like, “This is real. There’s something happening.” Spinners, right? Fads are easy for me, and I think what I’ve
been good at in business is trying to decide what’s a fad and what’s an actual business,
so something like Socialcam. I downloaded it and got very serious about
it in 2011. I didn’t know even the founders of Socialcam. It wasn’t that I knew if Socialcam was going
to be big. I didn’t invest in it. I didn’t go after it, but I knew video on
the mobile device was going to be big, so when Vine got hot very quickly, I was an early
mover and early advocate of Vine and Vine influencers, right? Which, by the way, Vine influencers are absolutely
the precursor to this Snapchat Instagram thing we’re dealing with right now. That’s where they came from first. Instagram was photos. Then when Vine was dying a little bit, they
all moved over to Instagram. Instagram was smart and made video, one-minute
videos, and that’s when you saw the shift, and that became the seed and the foundation
of Instagram influencers, which is an enormous billion-dollar industry now. Everyone’s like, “How are you so early?” It’s because I put in the work. 2011, Socialcam, learn how video and mobile
works. 2013 comes along, Vine pops. I’m like, “That’s right.” I lived through YouTube 2006, 7, being a YouTube
celebrity for my wine show, so I knew what it looked like. I saw that the Vine kids were that. I flew to LA and met Brittany Furlan and King
Bach. I put in the work, and so it’s intuition,
but it’s also putting in the work. Tom: And that, putting in the work is one
of the simplest and most, I think, often overlooked kind of thing, and how do you plan to … Is
that one of the things you think people just are either born with the fortitude to do that,
or is that something you- Gary: No. That’s the one that I think … I mean, there’s
a lot of research, and again, being an F student in science, I never, I really don’t … It’s
not that I don’t trust anything. It’s that I know that I haven’t put in the
work … Tom: Right. Gary: … to really know if I should quote
things, so I kind of just stay in my little lane, but there is a lot of push towards being
a workaholic, and hard work is a learned behavior. I see it in my team. There’s people that come into my … I’ve
seen it in the thousands of employees I’ve had, which is, the closer they are to the
son, the harder they work, and I’m like, “Aha,” and so I definitely feel like I learned hard
work by watching my parents, and so it’s why I talk so much about hustle. Tom: Because it’s one of the things that people
can actually adjust and turn to. Gary: I watch people give advice completely
predicated on natural talent and DNA, and I’m like, “Look, I get it. I can throw a football every day for nine
hours a day. I’m just not physically built to be competitive
at the highest levels,” so yeah, I do think if anybody watching right now, if there’s
anything they take away, it’s like, “Look, you’re going to only be so pretty. You’re only going to be so smart.” There’s things that are going to be natural,
and then there’s things that you can actually control. I do believe, and I don’t know if I’m right
or wrong, I don’t, but I do believe that work ethic is a taught behavior. It’s something you do have more control over,
and yeah, I think … And you know what really sealed the deal for me? Getting healthier. Tom: That’s interesting. Gary: I was 38 years old, and it didn’t come
natural to me, like it didn’t come natural to me at all. I hate the gym. I hate it now. I hate it. I don’t like it. I don’t want to do it, but I knew it was important,
and somewhere around, midway through being 38 years old, I got serious. I figured out my system. I made the financial commitment, and I’ve
won. Right? And I’ll never lose again, because the system
was, I needed to be accountable to another human being, so it was about Mike and now
Jordan, and whoever else is my trainer. I’m doing it, almost weirdly, more to not
let them down than to … And so that was this shift, and so I feel like there’s a shift
that can make people work harder. The big one that I push is, you’re going to
die. If you’re … To me, life is broken down into
complaining and not, so if you’re not complaining, well, then I have no advice for you. I’m pumped. You did it. I have friends who make $42,000 a year, work
nine to four, kind of, with an hour and a half lunch and 45 minutes of YouTube and 10
minutes of bullshitting, and an hour of complete waste of time in a meeting, so they’re kind
of working like six hours a week, right? But they’re pumped. Tom: Right. Gary: And they text me, these are high school
friends, and they’ll text me like how happy they are to be the coach of their kids’ baseball
team, and that’s amazing. That seems very obvious to me. That’s like, that’s right. You know what’s super weird? I’m actually weirdly envious. It sounds cool, like in theory, right? Grass is always greener, right? Tom: Right. Gary: Far less pressure, like, “All that time
with my kids? Oof, that would be cool.” There’s just all these things that I can justify,
so to me, but I have friends who have $100 million in the bank because of Facebook’s
IPO who complain, who are still hungry, who want to do even more, who will complain to
me, because they know I work a lot, about no work-life balance, and they don’t get to
spend enough time with their family. And I’m like, “You have $100 million. You could stay home. You’re in control. Don’t complain about it. You’ve made that choice. Don’t bullshit me. You want to spend more time with your family? Spend more time with your family.” This is back to what we said about keyboard
warriors. I’m trying to be very careful about what I’m
saying versus what I’m doing. Tom: Right. Gary: Because that’s how you get exposed,
and I don’t mean like people calling you out and being like, “You suck.” I mean to yourself. I don’t want to be exposed by myself. It’s looking yourself in the mirror and saying
like, “Am I doing this right?” So to me, there are so many people that are
talking shit about how big of an entrepreneur they’re going to be and how much they’re going
to achieve, and they don’t work on weekends. I worked every Saturday of my 20s, and I talk
to 20-year-old entrepreneurs every single day. Lately, I’ve been saying to them, “This Saturday,
you’re going to have more time off than I’ve had in my entire 20s on a Saturday, so before
you tell me how you’re going to be bigger than me, start thinking about what you’re
actually doing.” Tom: Right. Yeah, no, I have heard you say that once,
and it really caught the person off guard, because they were all about what they were
doing, and then it’s like, “Oh, yeah.” How do you plan to instill that in your kids,
or do you? I guess you …
Gary: I don’t. Tom: … don’t. Gary: I don’t. I plan to instill kindness into my kids. I plan on instilling perspective into my kids. I plan in instilling just being a good human
being. I plan on making sure they don’t use their
parents’ wealth and microfame and leverage to impose on any other person. I’m petrified of that. If my kids try to punk their friends on my
shit, I’m going to beat the fuck out of them. That’s just loser DNA. You didn’t do that. Tom: That’s interesting, so I’ve heard Will
Smith say before to his kids, “You guys aren’t rich. Mom and Dad are rich.” Gary: Yeah. Sure, I, but not really, right? So like I’m not obsessed with tactics. I’m obsessed with religion, so I have a lot
of wealthy friends at this point who think it’s smart for them to sit first class, put
the kids in coach. It’s a tactic. They send their kids to Africa to build a
school for a week. It’s a tactic. It’s like my friends that love the environment. The number two sector in the world that is
hurting the environment is the fashion industry. When you run the math of what’s doing bad
to the earth, it’s the number two industry behind … I don’t even want to say it, because
I’m not sure if it’s gas and oil. The number two industry, this I know for a
fact, is the fashion industry, so all my fancy friends who love the environment, are they
willing to give up their fucking Louis bags? Let’s see. Right? So I think people talk shit, so you let them
sit coach, and you went first class, but you went to Hawaii and ate at all the best …
You can’t pick and choose. To me, it’s binary, so I don’t want to be
a hypocrite, so my big thing is like, “Look, you need to be kind.” Being mean is just non-negotiable in our family,
right? And then you just need to not be full of shit. If you want to look at daddy’s mountain, and
you want to say what I did to my dad’s, and that was a big mountain for an immigrant,
like, “Wow, Dad did it,” right? Tom: Right. Gary: If you want to say, “I’m going to climb
that, and I’m going to climb bigger,” awesome. I’m pumped. I’m weirdly not cheering for you, because
I’m just a weirdly competitive dude … This is actually something I’m not proud of. I’m comfortable saying this, and I believe
this is a flaw, but I don’t want my kids to beat me. I don’t. I hate saying it. I know this is where I get in trouble. People will take one little clip from one
video interview, and they’re like, “You’re bad.” It’s just my truth. I don’t want to bullshit you guys. I’m that competitive, but they’re my kids. If anybody was to … First of all, I love
when people beat me, because that’s the meritocracy of the game. Tom: Right. Gary: Like I’m a good investor, but Chris
Sacca was a better investor, and he’s my homey, and I’m pumped for him, because guess what? He deserved it. Tom: Right. Gary: So I won’t be upset if they beat me,
because they deserved it, but if they look at that and want to go the other way and give
away all of Mommy and Daddy’s money and be non-profit kids and give it all away, great. I just want them to be all in on them. Right? I don’t need them to be an entrepreneur. I don’t need them to make me proud. They don’t need to go to Harvard. They don’t need to do shit. They need to be themselves, all in, and they
need to be kind, and I’m good. Tom: You are so fascinating. You’re like this super weird conundrum, so
first of all, you won’t let your son, who’s six. Gary: Five. Four, but about to turn five. Tom: Okay. Gary: Score. Tom: You won’t let them score against you,
right? [crosstalk 00:20:41]
Gary: Though I did something weird. I did something even worse than that. I played Misha and … I played them on basketball
two-on-one the other day … Tom: Okay. Gary: … to five …
Tom: Yeah. Gary: … and this time I decided to let them
go up four-nothing. This is really bad. The best part is, when I hit the game winner,
they collapsed into tears. I hit this … We’re in the living room. I hit the game winner, the couch is over there,
I hit the game winner, and they both just run to the couch cry … I mean, big tears,
and I was … And Lizzie was there, and they’re on her, they’re like, ran into her, and I
look at her, and I’m just so happy, and I’m like, “Yes. Yes,” so I won’t let them score. Tom: Okay. Gary: Or definitely not let them win. Now I’m starting to fuck with them. Tom: Right, so the scoring becomes …
Gary: Yeah. Tom: … strategic …
Gary: Yes. Tom: … for maximum …
Gary: Pain. Tom: … punishment. Yeah, that’s good. But you did Episode 118 …
Gary: Uh-oh. Tom: … I think, with your dad. Gary: Yes. Tom: And you actually cried in the episode
when he said that he missed driving with you to the store, and you guys didn’t even talk
about it, by the way. Gary: Right. Tom: And watching it, I was like, “The fuck
just happened?” It was in that moment I realized that even
the shtick isn’t shtick, that it’s just flavors of who you really are, which is amazing. It’s so incredible, but it’s got to be … For
people that don’t really get into your world, it has to be almost impossible to believe
that that’s really you. Gary: 100%. Tom: That you could love your fucking kids
more than anything in the world, but not judge yourself to the point where you admit, “I
kind of don’t want them to beat me.” Gary: Yeah, man. You’ve clearly done some homework. I, yeah, I’m a contradiction. Tom: And here’s the thing-
Gary: I’m pulling from very opposite directions, which is why people struggle, which is why
I get such extreme reactions when people first encounter me. Even looking at this audience, some of them
immediately are like, “Yes.” And then some of them here who are now yes
were like, “Fuck no.” Right? But yeah, I understand where you’re going
with that. Tom: Yeah. It is utterly fascinating and I think gives
people permission to actually be who they are, and I never thought about it like this
before, but as you were talking just now, I thought, “God, is his secret power that
he doesn’t judge himself?” Do you feel like you judge yourself? Gary: I don’t. That’s a very, very, very good observation,
and it’s what I want for everybody else. We’re beating ourselves up. Everybody sucks at something. Right? We all have shortcomings, and we all have
strengths, and for me, it’s like, “Why don’t we just audit that? Why don’t we just look at it that way and
be like, ‘All right, well, I’m good at this, but I’m not good at that’?” And then I only focus what I’m good at, right? I don’t dwell that I can’t fix shit around
the house. I call somebody to fix it. I’m not like, “I’m not a man.” I don’t give a fuck. I don’t get it. I also think it’s awesome that I’m so emotionally
stable, and I’m the emotional backbone of everybody. Is that what a dude’s supposed to do? These cliches, these stereotypes, they’re
so silly. You’re exactly right, man. I don’t judge myself. I’m fully in love with myself, but I’m also
fully in love with everybody else, too. Right? It’s not like …
It goes both ways, like I tell people to buy into me, that work for me, it’s because I
buy into them first. I don’t need anybody to gain trust with me. It’s there. I believe that the human race is so grossly
underrated. We are good. Of course we have some bad. There’s fucking seven billion of us, but when
you look at our net score, it’s bonkers shit. Do you know how much damage we can be doing
to each other on an hourly basis, and we don’t? We’re still here. We won. We’re the alpha being, and we’ve figured out
how to stay together. This is insane, when you think about it, and
yet everybody wants to dwell on like, “Somebody said something mean.” Tom: What I love is, in that, though, is your
whole concept of, “Nobody’s ever let me down.” So this is what I always tell people about,
the things you’re ever going to hear me say will always be consistent with exactly what
I’d say if you woke me up in the middle of the night and then punched me in the head,
because it has to be so real. It has to be so fundamental to who I am as
a human being that I’ll give you that answer even if I’m dazed and confused, right? Gary: Interesting. Yeah. Tom: Just because that is my fucking North
Star. Gary: Yeah. Tom: It’s like my true foundation. And hearing you talk about how no one’s ever
let you down … Gary: Yeah. Tom: … it’s like-
Gary: Like to me, it’s just binary. Unless it’s complete death blow, death to
me … Tom: Right. Gary: … and my 17 people that I give a shit
about, everything else is super secondary. And let me tell you something. If you actually get into that mindset, it
gets real good. Everybody makes these big deals out of things
that just don’t matter. It’s perspective. My selfishness comes from my selflessness. It’s what makes me feel good. I see it in my mother. My mom is the epicenter to every single person
in her life. Her sister-in-law, her cousins, aunts, everybody
goes to her. That’s her comfort zone. Me too. Ask Gary Vee. This is my comfort zone. I like this. I hate when people are like, “What can I do
for you?” I say nothing. I don’t want anything. I hate that feeling. I went into my family business because I felt
like I owed it to pay them back. Those are my parents. So if that’s what I feel about them, what
do you think I think about everybody else? Tom: I love that. So one of my favorite Gary Vee answers was,
when asked what you would do if your daughter, when she turns 14, goes into her room and
is filming all her videos, and nobody likes it, and she comes out and says, “Nobody in
this world loves me,” and your answer was, “Step your fucking game up,” I believe was
the answer? Tell us about that. Gary: The market is the market, man. If nobody’s watching your stuff, it’s not
good enough. Everybody thinks their stuff is so good, like
every day, “Gary, my Instagram’s so on fire. It’s so awesome. Why is nobody … Why am I not gaining followers?” Because it’s not awesome. It’s just back to the … You’ve seen it. You all have friends who’ll be like, “Look
how cute my kid is,” and you’re like, “Ugh.” It’s what we think. We all think our stuff is the best, and I
get that, but yeah, that would be my advice, only because that also is liberating. To me, everything’s about breathing, right? To me, everything is about, take full ownership
for everything, and then everything gets easy, because then you’re in control, and then learn
how to love to lose. Like for me, my game’s simple, right? It’s all my fault. So now, I’m not mad at Lindsay, or DRock,
or … That’s it. My fault. I’m empowering them, so it’s actually true. My fault. Now, “Oh, we lost this,” or, “This didn’t
deliver,” or, “We fucked up,” all right. So now, everybody’s got losses. It’s funny. When UFC started getting popular, I started
using it to paint a picture, I’m like, “Look, business and entrepreneurship is much more
UFC than it is boxing.” In boxing, a loss is devastating. If you ever … I’m a big boxing fan. Most big fights, the big, big, big fights
every year, almost … It’s just unbelievable amounts of 33 and 0 versus 35 and 0, right? Just like, that’s what you do. You don’t fight anybody, and you get to that
level. Everybody’s got losses in the UFC. And so I think that’s how entrepreneurship,
that’s how life is. We all have losses, and so I like losses. I love adversity. I like the climb. I like the chip on my shoulder. I like when people are like, “Oh, I knew it. He’s not that good.” That is like … I’m even weirdly scared,
as I continue to ascend and I’m getting popular and, what did you say, the marketing leading
… People start putting these words in front of my name. I’m like, “Am I going to sabotage myself to
recorrect this?” I like adversity. So yeah, all on me. I enjoy losses. Now, all of a sudden like, “What?” You become completely invincible. I feel invincible. I really, genuinely, outside of the health
of myself and 20 people, feel 100% invincible as a person. I know what my intent is. I want to do good at nobody else’s expense. I’m far from perfect, we all are, and so it’s
just easy. It feels very light to live life. I’m just in a good mood. Tom: Talk to me about how your mom played
into that, because … Gary: A ton. Tom: … so, I know …
Gary: A ton. Tom: … your mom, you’ve credited her with
really helping to build your self-esteem a bit. You’re also a huge believer in like, “Don’t
fool yourself. Don’t tell yourself you’re good at something
you’re not,” so how did she make you feel so good about yourself …
Gary: She walked- Tom: … when you were struggling so much? Gary: That’s a great, great, that’s a very
… You’re doing a good job here. Tom: Thank you, sir. Gary: That’s a very … No, it’s a very good
way to ask it, because the truth is, she strategically used bullshit and real. What I think, in hindsight, she did was she
overemphasized things that were subjective or good, so she really … I’ll never forget
this. I opened the door for a woman in McDonald’s
in Edison, New Jersey, literal … When I was eight. Just, we were both walking. We were a little ahead, and I opened it and
let her walk through. If I tell you that my mom basically treated
that event like I won the Nobel Peace Prize for like three weeks … But think about how
smart that is. Think about how reinforcing that played out. Played out so much that one of the most interesting
comments in the 250 blogs that I’ve done was, I got an email from somebody who said, “Hey,
Gary Vee.” This comes, like, “Hey, at first I thought
like, ‘Ehh,’ and then I got into it a little bit, and I was watching this blog, and then
the other day, you really, you nailed it home.” And I’m reading, I’m like, “I can’t wait to
see what I did.” He’s like, “You went into the elevator and
you let all your employees go first,” and it’s just so interesting, right? These subtle little things. It’s so fascinating what matters to people. And I get it. I actually think that’s right, but it’s so
weaven into me at this point, I don’t even … I don’t recognize that. That’s what she did well. She made big deals out of the things that
were tried and true, and then when I got Ds and Fs, she punished me. Even though she knew I didn’t need school,
in her heart, she made me know that there was accountability for things. So I would lose television, and video game,
and friends privileges for … It would always be for a month. She’d break down somewhere around day 14,
13. My sister would tattle on me when I would
sneak in TV. It was a funny … It was a sitcom in itself,
the three of us. She really made me feel special, man. She really did it right. She really, really, really pounded home my
EQ, my kindness. I’ve done it with Xander, too. He went to the playground when he was two. We were at the playground. A little three-year-old kid falls and skids
his knee, and he walked over and was like, “Are you okay?” And I made that a two-week thing, right? Empathy, right? And so she just really did a good job of making
me feel good about the things that were around my kindness, and my support of my sister,
and my leadership skills, and my friends, and taking the … I took a bullet once for
something my friend did in the neighborhood, and she thought that was a good thing, and
just kind of those personality traits that I think … If all of us, everybody watching,
wrote down personality traits that we admire, any time I showed any of those actions, she
drove them home, and I think modern-day parents and most parents do not do that. I think they focus on dumb shit like grades,
because they are insecure and they want to put the bumper sticker that their kid went
to Stanford. It’s real fucked up when you really think
about what’s actually happening. So much of it is, “Misery loves company,”
or people reflecting of what’s inside of them. Tom: That’s really interesting. You know when I decided that I wanted to work
with you? When I saw your employees hugging each other
without … It wasn’t a greeting. They just were standing next to each other
and they both put an arm around each other, and I saw a couple different people do it,
so it wasn’t like I just happened to see people that were dating or something, and I thought,
“The employees like each other.” That’s such an amazing sign of what you’re
building, and I know how hard it is to work that into the culture and to create a safe
space where people are really excited about what they do, where they come in. They feel it. It just permeates the entire office. And now, having been to your offices several
times, it’s like you get that sense that A, people like what they’re doing, and I’m sure
they work really fucking hard, but they like what they’re doing and they like each other,
and that was a big thing for me. Gary: That’s because you have experience. You didn’t take that for granted. Tom: Sure. Gary: The biggest thing I fear at VaynerMedia
is the kids that come out of school and work at VaynerMedia, and after three years, you’re
25 and you’re like, “Well, what else might be out there,” right? Tom: Right. Gary: They love it. They love VaynerMedia. I mean, the ones that I’m thinking of. Some people don’t. I mean, look, VaynerMedia is the serendipity
of who you interact with, the clients you have. There’s a lot that can go into it. There is no one VaynerMedia. There’s no one America. There’s no one anything, right? But yeah, they’ve been getting caught, this
grass is greener thing, and I’m actually very weird. I’m starting to try to … Now we’re at a
scale where I’m a little, loosening it up, but for the first five years, you couldn’t
come back, because it was a vulnerability. Tom: Sure. Gary: Now we’re at a different scale, and
now I’m considering it a little bit more, and we’ve taken a couple people back through
the years. I would break my own rule, because I think
that’s important. You have to be flexible. But yeah, it’s, I appreciate you saying that,
but I think that’s because you understand how difficult that is at scale. Tom: Sure. Gary: When you have 700 employees, to have
a real culture of good, that’s hard, because you have a lot going on. Tom: When’d you decide to do the Chief Heart
Officer? Gary: So, Claude was an incredible employee. She was an SVP, which means she ran a piece
of business. She was running the Unilever business, and
the way that the 30 people that interacted with … They were bought into her at a level
that was incredible. She and I just had instant chemistry. All the stuff we’re talking about here, that’s
what we talked about, not the other stuff, and we started talking about maybe her potentially
doing something else and having a bigger impact on the company, not just running this piece
of business. And then, out of nowhere, she quit, and it
was devastating for me. I was … That gut punch, I was just frozen,
because I don’t get caught off guard that much, because EQ is so good. It just completely caught me off guard, and
literally, it was amazing. Talk about leadership, and some things that
I’m proud of about myself, I get punched in the face, and before she leaves the room of
her telling me she’s leaving, which was a 25-minute conversation, somewhere, seven minutes
into it, the last 18 minutes, I was thinking about the plan of making sure she didn’t land
anywhere that would be too settling so that I could get her back, right? And basically, I didn’t want her to feel the
full core pressure, but a month later, I started meeting up with her, and having drinks, and,
“How’s it going?” And I think the best way, back to all the
energy of this conversation, you heard what I just said, and what I did was I tried to
get her the best job in the world that I could. My way of getting her back was by trying to
help her more than it would help me. That’s just, karma is practical. I love that people think karma is this weird
thing. Doing good for other people is a good strategy. I’ve been trying to … I’m like, “Why does
this thing even exist? It’s actually the most common sense thing
of all time. Why does karma seem weird? The fuck is karma? Wait a minute, so you’re telling me, if you
do lots of good things that, weirdly, good things happen to you?” Yeah, that seems like common sense. It’s amazing to me. Anyway, I tried to do all the right things. We started rolling. There seemed to be an opportunity for somebody
to sit above our current head of HR, and so we decided there was that opportunity, but
I could not call her the head of HR. I did not want the world to think of, that’s
what we were doing, and I wanted her to sit at the pedestal as the most important person
in the company besides me, more than the CFO, more than the COO, which got you into “Chief,”
right? And then heart just seemed right. It just seemed like a nice word, so … It
didn’t have like … If she was Chief Emotion Officer, then she’d be CEO, and that’d be
weird. So it just fit. Tom: Have you seen other companies pick this
up? Gary: We’ve seen companies like NASA, and
other big companies reach out to us and they’re auditing us. Tom: Wow. Gary: I have a feeling that it could happen. Yeah, I feel it could happen. That would be a great legacy. Tom: Yeah, dude, I’ll tell you, from the outside,
watching that and understanding the really weird dynamic that is the HR department, where
they present themselves to the employees, “We work for you,” but in truth, behind the
scenes, they feel essentially, it’s not a fiduciary responsibility, but it’s that same
kind of idea to the business, right? “I don’t want the business to get sued, and
here’s what’s going on.” They have to be careful, and it’s like, God,
the employees feel that, man. Gary: And that’s why I think we’re winning,
because, and we have our … Listen, we just did a major reorg, 60 people let go. That’s really hard to convince people you’re
the best, but you are the best, because you’re doing it for the mass. It’s the right thing to do, but I’ll tell
you, the person who deserves the most credit, I would say Alan Harker. He’s the Chief Financial Officer, and he’s
been incredible. He’s new, and he’s been incredible in not
… I told him during the interview process, I’m like, “This is a bad gig. We will make decisions that are not financially
sound based on my intuition of where there’s growth, based on what we think about people,”
and it’s been really interesting, right? We’re trying to help our leaders become better
business people, because I believe in them. Lindsay, right, you get to work with her,
VaynerTalent. She knows what she’s doing, and she runs a
tight P&L, but then I’m always trying to break it. It’s a matrix for them, right? Because when they sit with Alan, and chief
financial, they’re trying to run a business …
Tom: Right. Gary: … but then I’ll come over the top
and be like, “No, this is working. Hire more, and you’re going to have a negative
P&L this year,” but they’re like, “But Alan,” I’m like, “Fucking Alan works for me,” and
it’s a whole thing. It’s a whole thing, but it’s been great, because
we’re back to pushing from opposite directions. I’m seeing it, right? I’m letting the company do its thing, but
I’m a force that’s equal to the company of magic, right? And I’m pushing, and now I’m starting to really
figure it out. I’m kind of almost weirdly separating them. I’m even thinking of things like a Gary tax,
right? And basically, that’s just offense, right? That’s Lindsay saying, “Hey, I really see
it. I want to go for it,” and I’m like, “Cool. Gary tax it,” and so while … What that would
mean is that she can still run the business or her division properly, subtract the weird
things I did dollars-wise … Tom: Right. Gary: … and then see if she’s running an
actual business, because what was happening was the leaders were all under Gary tax, and
they didn’t know how to run a business … Tom: Right. Gary: … because my halo being able to create
top-line revenue protected all their inabilities. And as we scale and I want to give them other
opportunities, I needed them to be able to be capable outside of magic. Tom: Yeah, yeah, for sure. All right, there’s one thing I have to [crosstalk
00:39:52] Gary: I’ve never talked about that before. Tom: No, I love-
Gary: That was good, right? I saw that you were loving it, and I was like,
and then I was like, “Man, that was, that’s cool,” but that’s a really interesting thing
for entrepreneurs that are scaling businesses, because entrepreneurship is actually completely
in contradiction to running a proper business. They’re opposites. Tom: No, I’ve always said the reason that
we were successful at Quest was because we knew to zig when everybody else was zagging. You have to be able to make the counterintuitive
choice. Gary: Have to. Tom: And by the way, super fucking weird,
so when you and I met for dinner, God, like five months ago at this point, I had pitched
what I pitched to you to I don’t know how many people, 30, 40 people, and every single
one of them looked at me like, “What the fuck?” And they literally had no idea what I was
talking about, and I said, “Look, a huge part of what’s driving this is when Disney acquired
Marvel Studios.” That changed everything for me, and I knew
what needed to be done. I knew what that opened up in the market,
and you said, and I quote, “My entire life is predicated on the fact that Disney bought
Marvel,” and I was like, “What the fuck?” It was like the … The first time it went
from getting looked at like I was out of my fucking mind to somebody who’s like, “Yeah,
yeah, I know, I know.” I was like, it was very fascinating. Gary: I remember that. Tom: That’s when you realize that it’s the
ability to see that. It’s the ability to see the oblique angle,
and, more fucking importantly, it’s the ability to believe in yourself enough to rally a team
behind you and say, “This is what we’re going to do,” because what I’m telling everybody
is, “We’re going to build a studio bigger than Disney.” Now, you can imagine how everyone looks at
me, right? Think of you in the early days saying that
you’re going to buy the Jets. Everybody …
Gary: I get it. Tom: … says you’re a fucking idiot. Gary: I get it. Tom: So saying that, it’s like that, to me,
is being an entrepreneur, versus a businessperson who can run a positive P&L, and they understand
all that, and I’m fully going to steal your notion of coming in like magic. Gary: Yeah. Tom: But, yeah, that’s a key insight for anybody
that really wants to be an entrepreneur. It’s not the license to be reckless, because
I’m prepared to come in and now fucking execute against building Disney. Gary: What’s super interesting is, and those
people that are CFOs, and CEOs, and COOs, they think that’s the magic. I always laugh at them. I’m like, “You’re a commodity.” Tom: Right. Gary: “There’s millions of you. That’s math. That’s easy to understand.” I always say, if you want to be an anomaly,
you have to act like one. People want all these special things to happen,
but then they’re acting like everybody else, and that gets into the Saturdays in your 20s,
or just taking risk or things of that nature. I totally agree with you. I think about it as … You know that picture
where it looks like two people kissing or it looks like a glass of champagne? I just basically think, at this point in my
business life, the world sees the glass of champagne and I see the two people kissing. I just can see it. I know what’s coming. Now it’s about where do you want to take advantage
of it. I knew seven, eight years ago that the phone
was … There was nothing else. Everyone’s like … I know that ABC, CBS,
and NBC is finished. Their infrastructures, their infrastructure
costs don’t match the reality of consumer behavior. We’re going to watch things on OTT, whether
it’s Netflix, or Hulu, or Amazon. Facebook’s coming out with original programming
in a month, right? We’re going to watch it. Now, if it’s shit, we won’t. If it’s a bad show, we won’t. If it’s a good show, you’ll watch it, and
that’s that. And so I know that’s coming, and every brick-and-mortar
retailer’s in deep shit, I know that’s coming. I know influencer marketing hasn’t even started. There’s a lot of things I can tell you that
are going to happen over the next three or four years. It’s about, what are you going to do about
it? Which one are you going to choose? Where are the opportunities? Where are the angles? Tom: Right. I have one more question for you, but tell
them where they can find you online. Gary: Garyvee is where I am mostly, on Twitter,
Instagram, Snapchat, and then, on Facebook, it’s /gary, and that’s probably the right
place to go. Tom: All right. What is the impact that you want to have on
the world? Gary: So I would say this is my current POV,
because I think it’s actually important that I have a different answer for this at 50,
and 60, because you’re going to adjust to the reality. I’ll give you a good example. If something terrible happens in my life,
and it’s disease-based, or it’s because some kid was texting while he was driving and hit
my dad, those will become things that I want to leave a legacy about, because that’s just
how we act as humans, right? They become your truths. But no question, this will never go away,
I want to do the following. I’m fascinated by the same thing that attracts
so many millions of people to people that are selling bullshit, those same people are
attracted to me, and what I want to do is suffocate out all those other people and become
the alpha of that entire world of people that are hoping and are desperate to look at me,
and what I want to do is inspire two 14-year-old girls in Kansas City right now to build a
billion-dollar company on having a bunch of employees hugging each other in the halls. I think that Steve Jobs came along, became
an icon, but the sad part of that narrative was, he did not treat his employees well. He became an icon, and the narrative became,
“He got the most out of people by being a jerk,” and that became romanticized, and a
lot of people in Silicon Valley today run companies where they’re mean because they
think that’s the right thing to do because they put Steve Jobs on a pedestal. I want my pedestal moment. I want to become that big, and what I want
to come from that is that kids that aren’t even born today think that they can build
a 5-billion-dollar company and be a great guy or great gal. I want to build the biggest building in town
ever by just building the biggest building in town, while I think most people try to
tear down everybody else’s building. So I think positivity and good is practical
advice to building an empire, and I want to be the poster child of the person that built
the biggest, baddest empire and did it by being a good dude along the way. And not everybody’s going to be happy about
everything I did, but if it’s 97% of people talking good behind your back, that’s a real
legacy, and I want to do it in a pop culture way. I’m going to do it anyway. People have done that before. Just so you know, there’s plenty of people,
Warren Buffett’s a really good dude. There’s plenty of people that have done that. There’s a difference. I want to do it, and I want to be a rock star,
right? And that’s where you influence people. Like I want to do it, but I also want to be
the most popular, and so then, that person’s like, “Oh, I want to be him, so I guess I’ll
be nice.” I want to literally take people who have DNA
that’s kind of nice and make them more nice because they think that’s how I became big,
so I basically want to trick the business world into becoming kinder. Tom: I love that answer, man. Thank you so much …
Gary: Thank you so much. Tom: … for coming around. Gary: Thank you. Tom: That was awesome. All right, guys. You’re going to want to dive into the weird
and wonderful world that is Gary Vaynerchuk online. It is absolutely insane, the sheer volume
of stuff that he puts out. And what I love about him is, he is trying
to give away every secret that he has for free for anybody that’s willing not only to
listen to what he’s saying but to actually watch what he’s doing, and I’m telling you
right now, I watch everything he does like a motherfucking hawk, because there is much
amazing shit happening there. And the fact that he’s trying to do things
the right way, he is completely transparent in a world where, I believe, the only things
that are going to set you apart as an entrepreneur, other than your ability to actually build
a business, by the way, is your willingness to be transparent and authentic. If people can actually connect to you, I think
for the right type of entrepreneur, it opens up a window that is incredible, that has never
before been seen in human history. I am somebody who prides himself on being
an otherworldly marketer, and I built a very large business by understanding something
in marketing that other people didn’t understand, but at the same time, you know me. I’m never afraid to admit when I’m wrong,
and there was a time where I realized he was doing something better than I was doing and
I just sat at his feet and I’m doing my best to learn. So guys, I’m telling you, it will not be wasted
time and effort. He is an emotional conundrum. I am only just now beginning to understand
what is going on with this man, but it is incredible. He doesn’t judge himself. He is completely who he is. He recognizes his strengths. He plays to that. He finds people that can help him with the
negative side, and being around him is like being around a fire. Many people warm their hands on it and become
better as a result. So dive in, you guys, and if you haven’t already,
be sure to subscribe. This is a weekly show, and until next time,
my friends, be legendary. Take care. Gary: Awesome. Tom: Cool. Gary: Cool. So fun. That was great. Tom: Hey, everybody. Thanks so much for joining us for another
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100 thoughts on “Gary Vaynerchuk on Why Perspective Will Make or Break You | Impact Theory”

  • 99% of his blabbering on is about him and his success and nothing you can do with it for business purposes. He lovvvvvves to talk about himself. The host is a joke. Total fan boy in awe instead of sacking good questions for his audience.

  • Wow, Gary didn't drop his "Zuck's" and "Evs" too cool for school name dropping crap. The more I listen to Gary the more of a douche he seems to be. And he preaches and sells 2005 business strategies that worked for him in 2019 despite those strategies being 90% done now.

  • There's zero here for business advice. Like almost all of his videos, there's basically no practical thing to take out of his blathering on and on and on in terms of a business piece of helpful advice. And the host is shamelessly ass kissing Gary's brown crown.

  • My favorite episode. No doubt about it. Two Amazing guys doing an Amazing job and showing their Amazing Souls. I loved this episode.

  • TOM – i've been watching your episodes for the last week and you have a REAL GIFT of pulling a LOT of value out of the people you interview. I'm SO happy to have found you… your angle of getting true value for those (me) looking to improve themselves really help hitting the jackpot everytime you interview people. I follow several channels that typically have interviews, they truly don't compare to your value-add whenever you interview/speak. Keep up the great work!!!

  • Gary V!
    I LOVE LOVE LOVE the impact you want to ave on the world!!!
    I hope you "trick" many many people into being MORE KIND!
    I believe you have, and will, and that you will also "trick" them into being happier, fulfilled, and truly successful!
    Thank you my fiend!

    Tom, you have introduced us to so many amazing people.
    Looking forward to many more.
    Wishing even greater success and impact for you!
    Thank you!!!

  • This is interesting. I've been going back and looking at some of the older interviews that didn't resonate with me for research on my book series, and I'm now finding that they resonate considerably more. Growth!

  • Lavender Violet says:

    I'm 39, have no friends, have never had a real friend. not ever. have never fit in

    part of me just thinks I don't stand a chance

    at being "normal" in this world.

  • Zeinab Mohamed says:

    Tom, I am not sure if you’re going to see this comment but I want to say thank you for doing this! I know you interview others to benefits us (Audience). But I love your drive and I follow you in every media. I am interested in your journey and I hope one day u can be interviewed by your own show. Please consider this and again thank you 🙏

  • I really enjoyed most of this interview with Gary V….. Kindness? Absolutely Encouraging employees? Absolutely! Working hard and being passionate about what you do? Absolutely. BUT, at 17:45 he talks about 'Beating the fuck out of his kids if they punk his shit' – Absolutely NOT. My parents beat the fuck out of me until I couldn't walk. I vowed NEVER to hit my kids and I never did. There is a better way to teach kids lessons. Beating them is NOT one of the choices most human beings prefer, even billionaires I hope. There are my two cents….. Neil Wood

  • Monica H. Otulakowski says:

    I really appreciate this show. You do thorough research, ask really insightful questions, and the intros/outros are engaging. Because of all this, I’m convinced there must be a reason you dip on the interesting scale to say, “tell them where they can find you”. I think it’s for The Assist (lob a flat question so they can get a chance for a huge power hit at the end) or The Formula (you started asking it, but don’t want to mess up The Formula). Great videos, thanks for sharing your talent in this way.

  • How about you start with getting rid of both your "potty mouths"? There is no need for "mother fucker" and shut in every other sentence. You want to be * Mr Nice guys" in your busineas? I would not want to work for guys like you having to listen to your filthy mouths every day.

  • Chad Teverbaugh says:

    This episode showed me a lot on how to be an interviewer. Or shall I say, how not to be. I see this as soooo educational.

  • I watched this video when it came out almost two years ago and its what got me on the path to follow Gary and all his craziness that comes with truth. But I love that guy. And I love the content Tom puts out. His stuff is so in depth and eye opening all it does is make me aspire to the be the best I can be to be (one day) what these two have created. I'm so excited to move forward and see what I can do, and I can only hope to meet and and have a conversation with the two of you. To have both of you in a single room would make the world explode! Again! I love you guys. See you two soon at the top, working together.

  • Fuck yeah. So, looking at my dead husband in the casket? Man! Game changer!
    I always comment before watching the whole thing. Dude, it only gets better! Thanks again IT!

  • Jacqueline Van Bierk says:

    Gary is amazing, such a down to earth no bs guy, so inspiring and genuine. Thank you for having him and this amazing interview. You actually looked super excited yourself !!!

  • Why people listen this sucker.

    He was born part of a rich family and in a rich country.

    Only idiots see him as valuable.👎👎👎👎

  • 98% of all millionaires in America achieve their wealth during their own lifetime. The biggest myth in our culture is that the rich stay rich and the poor stay poor. It's not true. In a book The Millionaire Next Door, the author lists the % of American millionaires from different countries of origin (all Americans except natives are immigrants and therefore have a country of origin). Of all the countries, the highest % per capita was Russia/ former USSR. This is still true, as these folks have a bias for entrepreneurship. Some Asian countries and India were also high. These are high risk/ high reward folks, especially those who remember living in circumstances that were unjust or government officials that were corrupt. In those environments the future is uncertain, so you might as well take risks. Those of us born in places like the US/ UK/ Canada are easily lulled into complacency due to the ILLUSION of security. Recent immigrants tend to do well, bc they're hungry. The biggest trick to success is to make yourself hungry

  • Donna Hanley says:

    Dear Tom, I love and watch all your interviews. The only thing you do that really bothers me is hearing you swear.You appear so intelligent and I was shocked the 1st time I heard you use a swear word. Is there any way you can practice using other adjectives to replace Fu%$ing?

  • Lamek skater says:

    hey tom(hoping this reaches you) so when you mentioned the 25 points i googled them and checked em out. agree with everything except number 6. Considering the progress report of human beings(not belittling the "dark side" but i really believe the good out weighs the bad) so considering all that we have achieved, how can you make "You can do ANYTHING you set your mind to, without limitation." a lie. it seems to against reality in my opinion. would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks in advance for your time

  • Mitch Dee-Zee says:

    Greetings Impactivists from sunny Mexico.
    They’re the coolest guys!!!
    Absolutely inspiring.
    I’m gonna be part of their project & help achieve their goal sooner than later.

  • Nisha Mallett says:

    Tom you have an incredible super-power of pulling incredible things out of people in a way that truly changes the lives of those who listen/watch. I’ve never seen Gary vee in this light and I’m just so amazed. Thank you ❤️

  • Huneza’s Handmade says:

    Don’t ever use that “mother” abuse EVER AGAIN!! You and kids watching and following you can’t respect “mother” you demean all that this word stands for………I am so upset I can’t even express my frustration…….

  • Dorothy Mannine says:

    How can I get to be one of those audience members on my favorite show ever? I can only imagine how much the impact multiplies being there in person considering how moving your videos are just from my phone. Another incredible interview.

  • Mr. Trump's Russia Advisor says:

    What does the foul mouth gain for these gurus… Maybe some offers to improve , expand vocabulary? Or does it reveal a deeper need? But, This is modern Media… Common regression to a street-level mean, a lower standard of usage for the world's leading language. But it's ok 😊. Make it a #@&-in' plus. You don't have to cuss. Try this app by Gus. He'll cuss for all of us. ( Sh-#@$)

  • I am not familiar with Gary, but am I the only one who thinks it is funny that he starts the interview complaining about other people and then states that he never complains?

  • Tim Bilyeo, you may not believe me when I say this but you are one of the most inspiring people that I have even been blessed to listen to! And I just wanted you to know that YOU have impacted me. 🙂 Please keep doing what you do & sharing your passion with the world. 💙

  • Stephen Smith says:

    Instead of being dressed to the 9's in designer clothing, I'm referring to suit and tie, these visionaries are comfortable wearing T-shirts and tennis shoes discussing some of the most poignant issues facing society today. For those so-called ",Old School" folks like me should listen and take note of what it takes to be successful today. #wednesdaythoughts #inspirepeople to #inspireothers to #overcomeobstacles and be #breakingbarriers

  • Stephen Smith says:

    This 49 minute interview with Gary Vaynerchuk took me about 2-1/2 hours to get through to the end. The shear depth of wisdom from these two young men resulted in my constantly making notes about #businessconcepts #inspirationalquotes as well as my own #personaldevelopment and shifted my thinking. I'm applying this wisdom and releasing some "OLD SCHOOL" beliefs with my new, dynamic thinking processes.

  • Joseph Angelo Re says:

    Been listening for a while, really LOVE Impact & Health Theory, but this interview, absolute PLATINUM! Thank you Tom & Gary for putting it out there for the rest of us working to make today better than yesterday, and tomorrow better still.

  • "it is utterly fascinating and I think gives permission people permission to actually be who they are" 22:51 !!! SOOOOO GOOOOOOOOOD

  • learn a tons of it on EQ parts. feel more confident and hardworking. My programming deadline is tonight, but I watch this video. I feel its worth it.

  • I met Gary V. once and have to say he is one of the most dynamic, genuine, authentic, and compassionate individuals I've ever met. With that total combination he is #1, and I've had an interesting journey in life where I have mixed with some high profile folks. Oh and forgot to mention also a visionary.

  • Ascending, as in discovering altruism is a higher form of selfishness; I care about how you feel, because it impact how I feel

  • Miami Culture Maven says:

    My Dad NEVER let me beat him in chutes and ladders so when I finally beat him at like 7 years old it was an epic win!!! Well done Gary Vee, I love you. Must be an immigrant father raising kids in Queens typa thing lmao


    I'm a Tom Bilyeu and IT fan first and foremost, but GaryVee provides amazing value as well and is entertaining as hell. If you follow either of these guys (and actually implement their teachings) you can't go wrong. So much value. Thank you Tom and IT team for another gem!

  • Nobody thinks their stuff is the best, they're trying to convince themselves and other people that it is, just seeking for confirmation.
    Most people actually think their stuff is absolute shit and think in negative ways about themselves as a human being.

  • Had to pause the video to cry when you shared that he was bullied into drinking urine as a kid, since I was bullied as a young lad into drinking lube from a cup which I learned he stole from his dad's drawer. Fucked up. Thanks so much for this, immensely grateful ❤


    Out of all the guests on the most powering show on earth – I absolutely can’t stand the antagonistic filtered drama queen. Bleeding with facade of happiness and perfection. Just ain’t for me.

  • My Struggle Is My Strength says:

    “Serving” others reaching the hypodermis layer should be everyone’s standard. Great interview.
    “My Struggle Is My Strength.”💪

  • Lol. There was an article about how harmful the fashion industry is this week. It's the first time I'd heard of it nearly 2.5 years later.

  • What a breath of fresh air seeing someone know that ambition and kindness are not mutually exclusive. I've believed for so long that the idealised snakes in suits is counterproductive and studies show that. Very few people change their minds because of science though. You need someone like this guy to show that success and kindness can co-exist.

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