5 Weird Signs Your Ex Feels Guilty for Breaking Up

5 Weird Signs Your Ex Feels Guilty for Breaking Up

Hey there. In this video we’re going to cover five signs
that your ex feels guilty for breaking up with you. And watch through the end because some of
these are going to be a little bit weird, okay? But first, my name is Clay with modernlove.life
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subscribe button down below. Okay. So let’s go ahead and get into this. Now, the first of these signs is, maybe it’s
not going to be that surprising, but maybe it will be for some. If your ex is feeling guilty that they hurt
you during the breakup, they may actually stop contacting you. They may actually shut you off. They may block you entirely. Now, why is this? It’s because people don’t like to feel guilty. People don’t like to think of themselves as
a bad person who hurts other people, who makes them cry, who takes away their dream of being
in a relationship or something like that. And if your ex believes that they’re having
this effect on you, they might feel guilty about it. And we don’t like to think of ourselves this
way. And so when we’re confronted with something
like maybe a text message, or seeing somebody online, on social media, seeing their updates
or something, it can agitate that guilt. It can remind us that, oh yeah, we hurt this
person. Oh yeah, we caused them pain. Yeah, there are feeling upset, down, sad,
depressed, whatever because of the choices that we made and the things that we did that
caused them hurt. And because of this, your ex may actually
shut down, close off and stop talking to you because they don’t want to think of themselves
as that kind of person that hurt you, as that kind of person that caused you pain, as that
kind of person that was inflicting some hurt on you. So that’s this first sign. Okay. The second sign that your ex feels guilty
is that they may assume the worst about you. Okay. They may try to distort facts and things that
happened in the relationship to make you look like a bad person. Now, this ties back to what we talked about. Nobody wants to think that they went out and
hurt somebody. Nobody wants to think that they are intentionally
doing something to cause pain to another person. So in order to justify why they broke up with
you, they may need to twist or distort or reshape truth a little bit in order to make
them look like the good guy. Make them look like, well, yeah, you had no
choice but to break up with them. So they may assume that maybe you cheated
on them, or maybe that you lied to them, or maybe that the one time you told a white lie
was like you always lied the entire time that you were in a relationship together. And this is basically them trying to protect
themselves from that feeling of guilt, them trying to protect themselves from that thought
that they are a bad person who hurt you and caused pain to you. If they can create an image of you in their
mind that is worth breaking up with, then they don’t have to feel guilty about breaking
up with you. So they may try to paint you out to be the
bad guy. And that is definitely a sign that your ex
is feeling guilty after the breakup. Now, the third sign that your ex feels guilty
about breaking up with you is that they may, on the flip side of this, try to paint themselves
as the victim. They may try to position themselves as somebody
who was the victim of your behavior, of your desires, of your whims, of all of these sorts
of things. And I tend to see this more in women than
in men. It’s not a blanket statement by any means. Men can totally do this, but women will more
often than not do this. They will try to position themselves as a
victim in order to, again, justify why the breakup happened. Again, this may or may not be rightly deserved. It just depends on your specific situation,
but people can tend to do this in order to alleviate that sense of guilt in order to
alleviate that sense that, Oh, I’m a bad person because I hurt somebody. I’m a bad person because I took away their
dream of being in a relationship. I’m a bad person and I feel guilty about hurting
somebody. They may try to twist and reshape facts in
order to either position you as the bad guy or to position them as the victim or maybe
some combination of the two. And again, those are signs number two and
three. Sign number four that your ex is feeling guilty
about breaking up with you about hurting you is, that they may actually start to post a
lot of positive and upbeat things on social media. Now, this may seem a little bit strange at
first. If they feel guilty, then why are they rubbing
it in your face that they have some great life now, that they’re maybe in a relationship
with somebody new, that maybe they’re doing all these interesting and fun things. And you have to understand, again, this goes
back to that sense of guilt that they’re feeling. And if they’re feeling a heavy sense of guilt
around breaking up with you or around things like that, they might feel bad about themselves. And so they may turn to their social network,
their friends online, their followers, their social media accounts, whatever, in order
to get some sense of validation. And so they may put out these posts that are
essentially like fishing for compliments, fishing for validation from other people,
so that they can get all of these things to help bolster them up. Now, of course, self esteem and all of that
doesn’t come from outside of you. Obviously, that’s why it’s called self esteem. But still people look for validation externally
from others in their lives, especially when they’re not feeling very good about themselves. So it’s not the healthiest thing in the world,
but people can do it sometimes. So that’s the fourth sign that your ex feels
guilty about hurting you. And the fifth sign that your ex feels guilty
about breaking up is that they may accuse you of doing certain things, like maybe cheating
on them, or they may assume that you’re dating other people. They may assume that you’re spending time
with other people. They may assume that you’re hooking up with
other people dating or things like that. And the reason why is, again, because of that
sense of guilt, they don’t want to feel bad. So in the case of them assuming that you cheated
on them when you were in a relationship, that’s a little bit of painting you as the bad guy,
painting themselves as the victim, but it’s also kind of alleviating that sense of guilt
because they’re able to say, “Oh, relationship wasn’t that important because you were already
with somebody else, or I’m easily replaceable to you.” Or something like that. Same goes with when they assume that you’re
dating somebody else, assuming that you’re spending time with somebody else or things
like that. They’re basically trying to not feel guilty
about hurting you by believing, by trying to believe that the relationship that the
two of you had together was replaceable, that it was not that special. If they believe that you’re seeing somebody
else or that you’re in a new relationship or that you’re dating or something like that,
they don’t have to feel as guilty about causing some devastating emotional impact to you because
they can say, “Oh look, you picked yourself up. You dusted yourself off, you moved on, you’re
dating somebody else.” Clearly the breakup was not as devastating
as we initially thought that it was. And so I don’t have to feel guilty, I don’t
have to think of myself as a bad person, I don’t have to think that I’ve hurt you in
some way because sure maybe that day or a couple of days or weeks afterwards it was
a little bit rocky, but you bounce back real quick because you must be the kind of person
that has started dating other people by now. They can either say this overtly, or they
can just like imply it like, “Oh, you’re probably seeing other people right now,” or, “I imagine
you must be dating others right now,” or something like that. This behavior really shows that your ex is
feeling guilty and they’re trying to alleviate that guilt by trying to offload other responsibility
that they might be feeling onto you and trying to basically open a door for you to take that
guilt and say, “Yeah, I actually am dating other people,” or anything like that. Now, obviously, don’t lie. Don’t tell them, “Yeah, you have no reason
to feel guilty. I’m dating hundreds of people,” or anything
like that. But just know that that’s what’s going on
with them. That’s why they might be suggesting these
sorts of things. That’s why they might be making those sorts
of comments. It’s not necessarily because they’re trying
to discourage you, it’s because they’re trying to manage and mitigate any sense of guilt
that they might be feeling as the result of breaking up. So yeah, these are a little bit weird. Some of these signs are a little bit weird
and strange. Have you noticed any of these signs? Have you noticed any other strange indicators
that your ex might be feeling guilty after the two of you broke up? If so, leave a comment down below. And don’t forget to like this video and subscribe
to this channel if you’re not already. If you want to know more signs that your ex
wants you back, you might be interested in checking out this playlist over here. We have a many different signs to look out
for, or you might also want to check out this video over here. And once again, my name is Clay and I’ll talk
to you next time in the next video. Please take care and have a great day.


42 thoughts on “5 Weird Signs Your Ex Feels Guilty for Breaking Up”

  • Yup constantly being asked if I am dating or that she’s surprised I haven’t slept with anyone. Makes sense what you explained.

  • Helo coach please help me please reply 😣 My ex blocked me for whole month after breakup. .. I was in NC then she unblocked me reached me out saying she missed me n want to see me, we had a chat for 3 long hours but after 2 days when i msged her she was acting cold and harsh… I am in NC again n she didn't blocked me surprisingly… What shoud i do?

  • If they are guilty about the way things have turned out, and then distance themselves from you. Could they possibly reach out when they have settled their emotions?

  • My ex did almost all of this behavior: seeking validation from others , making me the 'wrong person' who deserved to be dumped, our relationship (4+ years, we both left our spouses for each other, which was probably not an auspicious start to a relationship; I sure don't recommend) wasn't that special, blocking, rebound relationships for her, etc., etc., etc.
    Her guilt MAY have been even deeper because she broke up with me not because I lied to her, cheated, abused, belittled, put her down, took her for granted, or stonewalled, but because I wouldn't walk away from following my dream of songwriting.
    And I spent too much time at the office (day job).
    I was always supportive and loyal. But she felt entitled to certain things she said I didn't provide, such as giving stuff up for her that she felt threatened by or couldn't control.
    Neither of us knew at the time about our love languages. That might have helped, but maybe not. She still painted me as the "bad guy" and she was the put- upon "victim."
    Knowing these things doesn't bring anyone back but it definitely puts things in perspective and can help us move on…

  • Clay Andrews

    During the last 6 months there has 3 been interruptions/ interactions with my ex and his gf that I feel have effected and prevented my breakup recovery. His gf has reached out three times, stalking my Instagram and asking to take down old photos and asking if what I post is about him. Then this causes obviously a lot of drama and fights and my ex gets angry with me and blames me.

    I am focusing on becoming the best version of myself and doing and trying to figure out what makes me happy and also put myself first. However I just don't want to give up and at least see him again one day, talk with him, be on good terms and make peace the least. We were together for 3.5 years we had a beautiful relationship. I cheated because there were things lacking but nothing that couldn't be changed and I also had major major things about myself affecting from my childhood that affected the relationship I know now. So I feel like we have what it takes to be together again but I know this isn't going to happen at any point in time, soon That's ok for me. However I feel like I'm in a really bad position with my ex and I don't know how to reverse how he sees/ thinks/ feels to me or chnsge the dynamic of the situation

  • My ex broke up because she was cheating on me. The first time I ran. Into her with her new bf. They both took off the other way

  • I'd really like to think they feel guilty. :/ They kept giving mixed signals for a while, and in this rebound they got into they cheated on me with. They tried saying I hurt them, etc etc. When it was far from the truth and blown out of per portion with the examples of "how" I did, many being not even relating to things they were talking about.

    (Of course I've rambled about my situation in other comments on other videos lol)

    I'm curious though does guilt play into rebounds failing? Or does it ruin/better the chances of reconciling as long as the emotional connection is trying to be laid out? Because I'm really curious how to go about it when we do connect again, and if there IS guilt how to approach it, or if I should approach the guilt/possible guilt at all.

  • Atheist in Alabama says:

    I'm sure he feels guilty & he should!!!!! Unfortunately, I can't care about him anymore. He's always been the victim & I'm just the big bad bitch that tolerated his cowardice far too long!!! Twenty years & 2 kids, I can't even get the same common courtesy as a stranger on the street🤷‍♀️ I'm hurt but I'm not stupid so I'm done💯🙋‍♀️

  • I know he still loves me otherwise there's no reason to cut me off cold turkey for no legit reasons. We both agreed to be friends and so to me the only reason why he cut contact completely with me is bc he still have feelings for our relationship…a kind of fondness and love that's hard to replace! He made it seem like the door is still open in the future.. all bc I wanted more time and he was mad I didn't text him enough!!! Only a few words were exchanged over that, and it all ended 😢

  • Was broken up with in Nov after 2 years, was sudden and no major reason she was just not feeling it. No contact for about 6 weeks. Been texting back and forth in Jan & Feb, 2-3 days between 1 text from each of us. Then I asked to meet and she agreed. Catch up went really well 2 weeks back, didnt speak about the break up, then heard nothing until last weekend. Was told she had been thinking and didn't want to relive and talk about the break up again it's too painful. What's your take on this and what can I do next? Thanks

  • A big sign is when the ex hides things from you. For example they don't update their Facebook profile for months and so seem to be hiding things in their life. In my case I found out she left me for someone else and it was only because he liked a mutual friend's post which made me think he was a new friend, and he posted his things publicly it was soon obvious my ex is seeing him and did so days after the break up. There was also no updates or info through her friends whom I reached out to. She showed most of the signs in your video showing herself as being guilty of the break up and the extra one of hiding what she is doing or how she is going was another big sign for me.

  • She feels super guilty because we still had feelings for each other lol. But I can't really blame her- we live 3000 miles apart so we might've been on borrowed time. The breakup sucked for both of us and it's been 4 months. She's with a rebound but I hear they're struggling. (Her friends pretty much go out of their way to tell me. Kinda annoying actually) Sucks for both of us, but it's time to move on now. Starting to feel better 🙂

  • My ex is the king of ignoring me. He'll talk to me as long as it's not about the relationship. He's not acting like the victim because he knows that he was the one in the wrong, but I do believe he's trying to paint a picture to make it look like what we had wasn't really special and/or I didn't really care about him, to make him not feel foolish for breaking up wirh me.

  • I have noticed two signs in my ex behaviour…..
    No contact ;
    posting all sorts of relationship based quotes , happy posts etc
    But now she has stopped posting all this things

  • I don't know if its guilt or what but I sent my ex a message on instagram lastnight and she didn't even open it, what could it mean if they don't acknowledge your reach out attempts?

  • Account No Longer In Use says:

    My ex has done all of these to me. He makes me a bad guy, ruined my name, plays the victim, and punishes me for things i didnt do. It added so much insult to inury after what he did to me after a 6 year relationship..i gave up trying to win him back. Eventually you have to draw a line and say..you know what. Im not the one who did this. I dont deserve this.

  • Yeah all if those signs. He said he hopes I meet someone nice, but I said success is not new relationships, it is bringing up our kids.

  • I see all the signs. He definitely feels guilty. But in the end what does he mean. He has accused me of so many things. Thanx Clay, I was wondering how this works for him

  • my ex has said she has felt guilty. because of the situation, she caused. and she blocked me on everything after I found out she was messaging her ex and hanging out with him. but my question is how do I get her back. we dated for over a year and went through heart surgery and we were close. we hung out and spoke to each other every day. how can i get her back

  • my ex definitely tried to paint herself as a victim….like my anger at her is totally unreasonable and that Im just hurting her feelings. Its soo rediculous when she was the one to hurt me multiple times and then she feels bad for it, and I get mad at her…and then because of her consistent behaviour of unintentionally hurting me, she feels like its not her fault…negligence does not fucking excuse her for the hurt she caused. Fuck pisses me off to think that she is playing the victim card. Like me making her cry has nothing to do with her screwing me over….soo rediculous

  • Tea 4 Two Tea 4 Two says:

    He cancelled our wedding two months before the date and treated me horribly. After that he blamed me for everything! I couldnt understand why, in addition to breaking my heart by calling off the wedding and sabotaging our relationship, he was so mean and proyected on me the things he had done. I disappeared. After 2 months he saw one of my friends and approached him just to justify his behaviour. I hate him for all of this and expect at least that he feels guilty.

  • I knew my ex for 4 years, we know each other better than anyone in our lives. Once she decided to end things between us her entire personality changed, she started to view me in a completely negative light without any logic or reason. Now I understand why

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